My memory of the events of the evening is somewhat hazy, but I believe we had sex three or four times and one of those times included brief anal sex, which I verbally consented to.Īs I thought about it after Sam left my place, I decided that he must have assumed I would be OK with it since I had been the first time we slept together. I will admit, I drank too much on that date and I’m not sure if I would have gone home with him otherwise.
Our second date was near his apartment, and I did end up going home with him that night. He did ask to come into my home “for a nightcap” a few times, but seemed OK when I said twice that I wasn’t OK with that on a first date. Our first date was fun and at the end of the night he walked me home and kissed me good night. I’m a 32-year-old woman, and I’ve been on three dates with a guy I met on a dating app let’s call him “Sam.” Sam is several years younger than I am, but I’ve never had a problem dating younger guys before so I’m not sure if that’s relevant here. I’ll just be very upfront here: I’m not sure if I was sexually assaulted, and I don’t know how to proceed. Send me updates about Slate special offers.
